Such a good article. It is so true. I constantly get into the mindset of not being good enough, and I am learning to remind myself it is okay not to be perfect. There is never a final destination to arrive at, we are always on a journey of improvement 🙌
Yeah, it's okay to not be perfect. In fact, I'd say it's what makes us human in the first place. I really like the idea of deliberate imperfection (for instance, weavers who deliberately make a mistake in their work to acknowledge that perfection is for the divine). It takes a lot of pressure off.
This piece is so well written. My Dad gave me the best advice, “ Follow your dreams and you’ll never work a day in your life.” “Can’t is not a word”
As a kid I took him seriously and believed everything he told me. I think it empowered me with much tenacity. Regardless I live occasionally doubting myself.
Thank you for your wonderful inspiration and reminder to believe in ourselves. Have a beautiful day! 💞✨💞
My father was born in 1903 and sired mean when he was 50. In America if you were a kid growing up in the 50s you most likely had a father-in-law who had been a soldier in one of the world wars over the Korean war. Because of my father‘s age and the fact he was Canadian he missed all these wars. I noticed a big difference between him and other dads. The effects of those words cause much PTSD which was passed onto kids in the form of much discipline, and sometimes harshly served.
Excuse my typos in the last message! Lol, I corrected my dad had me when he was 15 to 50!
A friend and a lady who worked for me for years and whose father had been in the Vietnam war rule for his kids growing up was that if they did not finish their breakfast then they would wear it. Eat it or wear it. My friend Alicia said several times she had her breakfast dumped on her head. Her dad also suffered from or PTSD. The effects of that type of trauma is passed on to your kids. I see it all the time from war ridden fathers.
Most kids in America who grew up in the 50s 60s and 70s received this type of corporal punishment by parents and teachers and principals. I could tell you many horror stories. That’s why I am so blessed I grew up in that era completely spared.
So true! So many people were deeply traumatized by wars, and for a long time "shell shock syndrome" (what we would now call PTSD) was seen as a sign of weakness. It's good that mental health awareness has come such a long way since then.
I loved this insight: "Another issue that is related to the 'I’m not good enough' mindset has to do with sabotaging one area of life in order to improve another one." I have never heard it put this way before! Something to ponder for a while!
That last line is especially poignant and great advice. With how much social media has trained us to expect instant gratification, you have to snap yourself out of that mentality on substack. Things take time and we're all in various places on our journey to become better writers.
As an Enneagram 4, one of my core fears is that I will not have a significant impact in the world...essentially, that what I do will not be enough. So this hits me square in the breadbasket. Thanks, Alexander.
Such a good article. It is so true. I constantly get into the mindset of not being good enough, and I am learning to remind myself it is okay not to be perfect. There is never a final destination to arrive at, we are always on a journey of improvement 🙌
For sure, you said it perfectly!
Yeah, it's okay to not be perfect. In fact, I'd say it's what makes us human in the first place. I really like the idea of deliberate imperfection (for instance, weavers who deliberately make a mistake in their work to acknowledge that perfection is for the divine). It takes a lot of pressure off.
This piece is so well written. My Dad gave me the best advice, “ Follow your dreams and you’ll never work a day in your life.” “Can’t is not a word”
As a kid I took him seriously and believed everything he told me. I think it empowered me with much tenacity. Regardless I live occasionally doubting myself.
Thank you for your wonderful inspiration and reminder to believe in ourselves. Have a beautiful day! 💞✨💞
That’s an amazing dad, how much it means in our life to have that type of example.
My father was born in 1903 and sired mean when he was 50. In America if you were a kid growing up in the 50s you most likely had a father-in-law who had been a soldier in one of the world wars over the Korean war. Because of my father‘s age and the fact he was Canadian he missed all these wars. I noticed a big difference between him and other dads. The effects of those words cause much PTSD which was passed onto kids in the form of much discipline, and sometimes harshly served.
I feel so blessed and fortunate!
PTSD is really horrible!
Excuse my typos in the last message! Lol, I corrected my dad had me when he was 15 to 50!
A friend and a lady who worked for me for years and whose father had been in the Vietnam war rule for his kids growing up was that if they did not finish their breakfast then they would wear it. Eat it or wear it. My friend Alicia said several times she had her breakfast dumped on her head. Her dad also suffered from or PTSD. The effects of that type of trauma is passed on to your kids. I see it all the time from war ridden fathers.
Wow, that is so sad…
Most kids in America who grew up in the 50s 60s and 70s received this type of corporal punishment by parents and teachers and principals. I could tell you many horror stories. That’s why I am so blessed I grew up in that era completely spared.
So true! So many people were deeply traumatized by wars, and for a long time "shell shock syndrome" (what we would now call PTSD) was seen as a sign of weakness. It's good that mental health awareness has come such a long way since then.
Thank you, it’s nice to see progress Louise ✨💜
Your dad gave great advice!
Thank you!
I loved this insight: "Another issue that is related to the 'I’m not good enough' mindset has to do with sabotaging one area of life in order to improve another one." I have never heard it put this way before! Something to ponder for a while!
It’s very interesting when we notice it
Thanks for sharing ;-)
This is a great reminder for today.
We decide what we're capable of—and in doing so, we decide the world around us.
I hate to think of all the opportunities I've missed out on because I didn't even try.
Main thing now is to adopt and to be brave in the present.
That last line is especially poignant and great advice. With how much social media has trained us to expect instant gratification, you have to snap yourself out of that mentality on substack. Things take time and we're all in various places on our journey to become better writers.
100%, great comment, thank you
As an Enneagram 4, one of my core fears is that I will not have a significant impact in the world...essentially, that what I do will not be enough. So this hits me square in the breadbasket. Thanks, Alexander.
Glad it connected. I have this feeling as well sometimes, I should go and study my enneagram more, I used to know some details about it
I get such a sense me of belonging that I really crave from exploring my Enneagram type. I hope you find some grounding from your own.
Thank you!
Beautifully written! And a great reminder I teach a college age Sunday school class. This is a feeling they have all expressed too well!
So glad you liked it! Thank you
Great wisdom in this piece, Alexander. Thanks for sharing it today.
thanks for reading!